How To Help Your Child Build Positive Relationships

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I loved the sea and the beach. Have you ever built castles or written absolutely meaningless nothings on the sand?  Yes, even I have. I love to see the waves rushing in and leaving the sand clear as a slate. Magic, I would feel. The castles took a lot of time to build, but the waves just broke it off. It made me feel awful and sad. Looking back I feel, even life teaches us a lot of lessons the same way. Just like relationships. We strive to build relationships that can be cemented, which can stand the test of time and fate. As a parent, we are eager to see our children sail through good relationships in life.

  1. Belief in self

“Encourage and support your kids because children are apt to live up to what you believe of them” – Lady Bird Johnson, former first lady of the United States

It is probably the best thing you would be gifting your child – to believe in self. They see the world through your eyes. Once he knows he can trust his judgement, it is rare for him to falter. To belittle your child, means depriving him to create his own self confidence.

  1. Encourage them to socialize

Building your own peer group is the first step a child takes in socialising. Be it the school, colony or activity centre. Let him build his puzzle pieces of life together. What sets a man apart is that he is a social animal – he can communicate in the best effective manner on this planet. As parents, we should deter from dictating his peer group. It contradicts his own personality and he wouldn’t grow to a person capable of managing his relationships.

“Affirming words from dads and moms are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in the child’s life and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.” – Garry Smally, family therapist.

  1. Trust

Every relationship has its trials and tribulations, whether it be a parent- child, a teacher- student, husband – wife or between friends. As a child grows up, each relation – petal in his life is unveiled like a blossoming flower. He or she learns to cope with it, but what mustn’t leave the plate, is the trust that bonds him with these people.

“Trust is the glue in life. It is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen Covey.

  1. Teach by example

They say those parents are best who lead by example. It is a natural phenomenon that children learn much more from our actions than from our words. When they see you value relationships, with your mother, father, wife or a friend; they indirectly imbibe your mannerisms and attitude.

  1. Pray together

As families, we expect our child to develop a strong and close relation with his conscience and the Almighty. There’s a saying that goes that a family that prays together, stay together. A sense of right and wrong, or maybe to be good and do well; envelopes our personality. A prayer is like a food for the soul.

  1. Relations start at home

A child learns the value of a relationship at home. The love which engulfs him and the sense of security he feels when he is with his own family makes him aware of the word “Relationship”. He learns to bond and trust other person the same way, when he steps out of his home. Life may teach him a lot about people, but family teaches him to believe in self and life.

“Nothing is built on stone; all is built on sand, but we must build as if sand were stone “– Jorge Luis Borges

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Sheeba Lekhak 

Author – SuccessYeti