“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”—Lao Tzu
Right from the day we start understanding life, this very question, “what others will think” keep governing our day-to-day actions and decisions. We regret at the end of the day that the choices we made were only for the sake of others and at the cost of our own happiness. We do things to please others, we go against our will because we are constantly bitten by this “thought bug”.
You may be one of those people who are worrying too much about what others think of you and in turn, you are sad and depressed because your expectations have not been met, your emotions have been crushed. So what should you do now? Take these life lessons explained below:
Remember: You cannot please everyone
If you are living a life to please everyone around you, then you are bound to get intrigued by people and their sayings. Value relationships but do not go overboard with your acts of satisfying people, especially with materialistic measures.
Everyone has their own opinions. You stick to yours
You will be judged, you will be criticized for your actions. During such circumstances, you need to stay firm and be confident. Stick to your own set of values and opinions; it will help you to win in any competition that you may face in life.
It’s your life. Why get bothered by others?
Whose life are you leading? If it’s your life then why allow other people’s opinion to control your life? Stand on your own feet and take your own decisions. Once you can do this, you will automatically stop thinking about others think of you.
Do not criticize yourself for futile things
The more you criticize yourself, the more you are giving opportunity to others to criticize you. And the ultimate outcome is – a ruined mind laden with unproductive thoughts about people and their mindset. So stop playing victim and stop criticizing yourself for anything and everything.
You cannot control others’ mind; so control yours
Can you control what other people think and speak? No. So why worry about something that is not within your grab? Let go of it. Ignore. Focus more on self development and allow your energies to flow in the positive direction that would ultimately improve your life.
Your happiness is only in your hands
Accept the fact that no one else is responsible for your happiness, except you. If you can’t keep yourself happy then you cannot stop worrying about what others think of you. Thus, cultivate immense mental peace and happiness.
The solution is not complicated at all, be yourself and be good, and let others think and do whatever they want.