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He who controls anger, controls life: A Must Read story

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Anger is just a letter short of danger. Controlling one’s anger is the key to success. This beautiful story will make you understand the importance of taming the Green Goblin within you.

As a carpenter went home after shutting down his workshop, a black poisonous cobra entered his workshop.

The cobra was hungry and hoped to find its supper lurking somewhere within. It slithered from one end to another and accidentally bumped into a double-edged metal axe and got very slightly injured.

*In anger and seeking revenge, the snake bit the axe with full force. What could a bite do to a metallic axe? Instead the cobra’s mouth started bleeding.*

Out of fury and arrogance, the cobra tried its best to strangle and kill the object that was causing it pain by wrapping itself very tightly around the blades.

*The next day when the carpenter opened the workshop, he found a seriously cut, dead cobra wrapped around the axe blades.

The cobra died not because of someone else’s fault but faced these consequences merely because of its own anger and wrath.

Sometimes when angry, we try to cause harm to others but as time passes by, we realise that we have caused more harm to ourselves.

For a happy life, it’s best we should learn to ignore and overlook some things, people, incidents, affairs and matters.

It is not necessary that we show a reaction to everything. Step back and ask yourself if the matter is really worth responding or reacting to.*

Let Treat people with kindness even if they hurt you.

People that show no inclination to change, are best handled with silence and prayer.

THIS is really a touching story and could help us take some good decisions. Do like and share!!!

7 Ways To Cool Down Instantly When You Are Angry

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You are very angry, you do not know what to do, how to control that anger! Well, when overpowered by extreme rage, we lose our senses and tend to do something that might leave a permanent scar in our life or in lives of others. So, never do this for Anger is just a letter short of DANGER. That’s why I have come up with 7 wonderful techniques that would instantly cool you down whenever you are angry for any reason. Read on…

  1. Recollect these Buddha quotes immediately

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”

So remember, YOU are the one who is harmed when angry. Let it go…Make peace with self.

Click here to read more on – Buddha Quotes to Find Inner Peace and Happiness

2.  Apply the “Ignorance Theory”

If someone is purposely doing things to make you angry or to test your patience level, then simply ignore him/her… Yes ignore royally. The “ignorance theory” entails shutting yourself down from whatever is happening around you in order to restore your inner peace and happiness.

  1. Try the counting technique

Many of you must be aware of this wonderful technique, have tried and succeeded in calming down instantly…For those who do not know, follow this therapy- Count 10 to 1 backwards (10, 9, 8, 7….1) when you are angry. Test yourself how quickly you can cool down. If your anger vanishes at 9 then you are the winner- you have absolute control over your anger. Practise it in daily life whenever you are restless, angry, irritated, and annoyed.

“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.” – Thomas Jefferson

  1. Be conscious of your anger and then challenge it

People who do not realize that their anger is overpowering them are the worst sufferers. Thus, you have to recognize your anger as well as the trigger factors. Anger is a negative emotion, so never allow it to bury you down. Instead challenge it by telling yourself that you are the master of your emotions, be it anger or calmness. The choice is yours whether you choose to be angry or remain calm.

  1. Shift your focus instantly

This works for any kind of anger. If you can conceive the fact that something is making you angry then shift your focus. Let’s get practical by asking ourselves this question… Should we focus on the stuff that’s making us angry? The answer is of course “No”. Instead engage yourself in those activities that calm you down like listen to music, call a friend who makes you laugh, look at funny pictures, dance and many more.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

  1. Close your eyes and breathe on

Feeling angry? Want to hit out someone? Never do that. When you have such feelings, just close your eyes and breathe, until you can let go off anger, hatred and violence from inside.

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” ~Chinese proverb

  1. Vent out with a pen and paper

Hurling abuses, displaying anger or swallowing up anger for that matter is harmful too. So vent out on a paper, let out everything with your pen. This way you can cool down and feel light.

You have to try the aforementioned techniques next time you get angry. Practise them in real life to get rid of anger. You are the one who controls your mind. As I say, let go anger, let go ego, let go hatred to become a better individual.

7 Buddha Quotes to Help You Find Inner Peace and Happiness

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Before learning the sayings of Buddha, let me recall the story of “The Great King Ashoka”.

“It is said that after the battle of Kalinga was over, King Asoka went on a tour of the city. He could see nothing except burnt houses and scattered corpses. This was the first time in his life that Emperor Ashoka realized the consequences of wars and battles. It is said that even after he had returned to Patliputra, he was haunted by the scenes he saw in Kalinga. Even his queen, Devi, who was a Buddhist, left him after seeing the brutality at Kalinga.

It was during this time that he embraced Buddhism. After adopting Buddhism, Asoka started propagating its principles throughout the world, even as far as ancient Rome and Egypt. Throughout his life, ‘Asoka the Great’ followed the policy of nonviolence or ahimsa. The caste system ceased to exist in his eyes and he treated all his subjects as equals. At the same time, each and every person was given the rights to freedom, tolerance, and equality.”

Source: culturalindia.net

What lesson do we learn from the above mentioned excerpt? The answer is – every action of ours is created from our thoughts. Hatred, anger, war and killing can never give you peace of mind. The path to finding inner peace and happiness is love.

As I say spread positivity, spread love and spread knowledge and so I have sorted out some wonderful quotes of Buddha that would help you to find inner peace and happiness. Read on…

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” Buddha

Learn to calm down your mind and thoughts. Be at peace with self instead of searching it elsewhere. Peace resides within you.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” – Buddha

 The choice is yours whether you choose to be good or bad.  The theory is very simple to understand -Good things bring hope, happiness and life and bad things bring forth despair, sadness and negativity.

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” Buddha 

Your present is all you have… You can redeem, you can restore, you can achieve and you can live at this moment. Grab it.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha

They are fools who think anger can conquer. Remember one of the worst negative emotions is anger. Let go off anger and peace shall prevail in your mind.

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind. – Buddha

The three brutal traits ego, pride and envy replicate very quickly in your mind. They are the biggest enemies to your peace and happiness. However, they can be conquered only if you desire.

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” – Buddha

Like I always say, filter your mind. Be compassionate, be kind, spread happiness, laughter and joy and you can experience permanent peace of mind.

However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?” – Buddha  

Lastly, let’s be true to ourselves and make a promise to practise the good things we learn, on everyday basis. It’s all in the mind – peace and happiness, both.

Spread the word. Peace and Happiness to You All.

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