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He who controls anger, controls life: A Must Read story

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Anger is just a letter short of danger. Controlling one’s anger is the key to success. This beautiful story will make you understand the importance of taming the Green Goblin within you.

As a carpenter went home after shutting down his workshop, a black poisonous cobra entered his workshop.

The cobra was hungry and hoped to find its supper lurking somewhere within. It slithered from one end to another and accidentally bumped into a double-edged metal axe and got very slightly injured.

*In anger and seeking revenge, the snake bit the axe with full force. What could a bite do to a metallic axe? Instead the cobra’s mouth started bleeding.*

Out of fury and arrogance, the cobra tried its best to strangle and kill the object that was causing it pain by wrapping itself very tightly around the blades.

*The next day when the carpenter opened the workshop, he found a seriously cut, dead cobra wrapped around the axe blades.

The cobra died not because of someone else’s fault but faced these consequences merely because of its own anger and wrath.

Sometimes when angry, we try to cause harm to others but as time passes by, we realise that we have caused more harm to ourselves.

For a happy life, it’s best we should learn to ignore and overlook some things, people, incidents, affairs and matters.

It is not necessary that we show a reaction to everything. Step back and ask yourself if the matter is really worth responding or reacting to.*

Let Treat people with kindness even if they hurt you.

People that show no inclination to change, are best handled with silence and prayer.

THIS is really a touching story and could help us take some good decisions. Do like and share!!!

A Simple Guide To A Peaceful Mind

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Why is it necessary to have a peaceful mind? There’s only one and only answer to it- our mind is the root of sadness as well as happiness. That’s why we motivate our readers to be in peace with self first before taking any action.

Also remember that attaining peace of mind is a process, not an overnight affair. So be patient for the fruits to blossom.

Earlier we have published an article on Buddha quotes to find inner peace and happiness and this article is an extension of his philosophy in a simplified manner.

So, read this guide to a peaceful mind.

Love yourself

Falling in love with self brings in positivity. When you consider yourself as a beautiful being and value your existence then only you can spread love and love others.

Distance yourself from negativity

Be it negative people, negative conversations or your own negative thoughts, just stay away from it. Have a whole new perspective of your thoughts- i.e. be optimistic and associate with people who are optimistic.

Spend time with self

That “me time” is important for everyone. Sit down and relax, do something you love,- dancing, reading, music, singing, photography, writing or anything that interests you.

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Talk less, listen more

Over talking, indulging in futile gossips and chatting for long hours, discussing baseless things, etc. only make one more and more restless. Such thoughts love taking shelter inside your mind. So pause, stop talking and listen more.

Let go ego, hatred and jealousy

These are immensely dominant negative emotions and the root of all miseries. Hatred brings hatred, jealousy steals away happiness and ego estranges you from your loved ones. Get rid of such feelings.

Control your desires

Human wants are infinite…If you can’t control your desires, then sooner or later your desires will control you. So, desire for things that you really need, don’t get so much fascinated by materialistic things that you lose your peace of mind.

Get enough sleep

Dalai Lama says, “sleep is the best meditation”.  Yes, it indeed is. So get ample sleep and rest to calm down your mind and live longer life.

Don’t hold on to grudges

For instance, you had a fight with your parents or your best friend, you are upset, angry, sulking. Your mind is at unrest. But for how long would you hold on to the grudge? Is it helping? No…Practice forgiving and forgetting.

Focus on now

Go by the old saying, “learn from the past, hope for the future but live in the present”. Yes, your present is important. Seize every opportunity to enjoy life and make the most of it.

Believe in good things

Have faith in self; be confident about your acts. It’s never too late to begin new… Don’t think what happened it in the past. Believe that the best is yet to come.

Lower your expectations from others

Oh man…why do you expect so much from others? Only to ruin your mental peace? Stop it right away, instead twist your thoughts – if they fulfil it’s good, if they don’t then also it’s fine. Why be sad? Move on and fulfil yourself.

Lastly, pray and meditate

Offer a prayer of gratitude not of asking, practice it daily. Just pray, without expecting and thank with all your heart. And if you can meditate daily before going to bed or after waking up in the morning then nothing like that…

That’s it…

It’s all in the mind. Control your thoughts and allow peace to reside in your mind and body.

7 Ways To Cool Down Instantly When You Are Angry

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You are very angry, you do not know what to do, how to control that anger! Well, when overpowered by extreme rage, we lose our senses and tend to do something that might leave a permanent scar in our life or in lives of others. So, never do this for Anger is just a letter short of DANGER. That’s why I have come up with 7 wonderful techniques that would instantly cool you down whenever you are angry for any reason. Read on…

  1. Recollect these Buddha quotes immediately

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”

So remember, YOU are the one who is harmed when angry. Let it go…Make peace with self.

Click here to read more on – Buddha Quotes to Find Inner Peace and Happiness

2.  Apply the “Ignorance Theory”

If someone is purposely doing things to make you angry or to test your patience level, then simply ignore him/her… Yes ignore royally. The “ignorance theory” entails shutting yourself down from whatever is happening around you in order to restore your inner peace and happiness.

  1. Try the counting technique

Many of you must be aware of this wonderful technique, have tried and succeeded in calming down instantly…For those who do not know, follow this therapy- Count 10 to 1 backwards (10, 9, 8, 7….1) when you are angry. Test yourself how quickly you can cool down. If your anger vanishes at 9 then you are the winner- you have absolute control over your anger. Practise it in daily life whenever you are restless, angry, irritated, and annoyed.

“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.” – Thomas Jefferson

  1. Be conscious of your anger and then challenge it

People who do not realize that their anger is overpowering them are the worst sufferers. Thus, you have to recognize your anger as well as the trigger factors. Anger is a negative emotion, so never allow it to bury you down. Instead challenge it by telling yourself that you are the master of your emotions, be it anger or calmness. The choice is yours whether you choose to be angry or remain calm.

  1. Shift your focus instantly

This works for any kind of anger. If you can conceive the fact that something is making you angry then shift your focus. Let’s get practical by asking ourselves this question… Should we focus on the stuff that’s making us angry? The answer is of course “No”. Instead engage yourself in those activities that calm you down like listen to music, call a friend who makes you laugh, look at funny pictures, dance and many more.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

  1. Close your eyes and breathe on

Feeling angry? Want to hit out someone? Never do that. When you have such feelings, just close your eyes and breathe, until you can let go off anger, hatred and violence from inside.

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” ~Chinese proverb

  1. Vent out with a pen and paper

Hurling abuses, displaying anger or swallowing up anger for that matter is harmful too. So vent out on a paper, let out everything with your pen. This way you can cool down and feel light.

You have to try the aforementioned techniques next time you get angry. Practise them in real life to get rid of anger. You are the one who controls your mind. As I say, let go anger, let go ego, let go hatred to become a better individual.

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