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Talking And Listening To Your Child. Why It Is Important.

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The morning breeze was swishing past my hair. I love the walk but mostly I rejoice the dawn of a new day. That is when I noticed that little girl in uniform waiting for her school bus. She was trying to convince her mother about something. But her mother was too busy to notice, she was on her cell phone. “Not now sweety! I have a train to catch “, so saying she entrusted the girl to her maid and quickly hopped onto a waiting auto rickshaw. I didn’t miss noticing that glum look on that little girl’s face.  I stood there wondering on Paul Tillich’s quote – the first duty of love is to listen. Listening to our child is one of the greatest ways of showing our love.

  1. Builds a bond

Every day, as I wait for his school bus to arrive, I look forward to his starting line,” Mama, you know what happened today…..” And every day that start up line makes me smile. A child is allowing an opportunity to enter his world through his words, don’t miss out on the Alice in wonderland opportunity. Believe me it transports us to a different world of thought process. The child learns to confide in you. It will become his reflex action to talk about whatever is happening around him.

“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little , they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big because, for them all of it , has always been big stuff “ – Catherine Wallace

  1. Learns to trust and communicate

A parent is the only window of exhaust for a child. He does not know where else to place his fears and seek recourse. If we shut down this window, it would suffocate him or her. A counsellor is required when a parent has taken a step back. A parent is a child’s best confidante.

  1. Open to talking about feelings

Why is talking and listening to your child so important? Because man is a social animal and we have an important tool for communication – speech. It is the only way I will know what my child is thinking. It is the only way I will know what he feels. The world outside our door can be rough, unkind or even cruel at times. Look out for warning signs, but most of all allow your child to reach out to you.

  1. Single parenting

As a single parent, the responsibility increases manifold. He or she would have a lot of insecurity and it is by listening and talking that you can address them. You will notice a mild discomfort, a silence, the look on his face, sooner if the child has learnt to confide in you.

  1. Make them feel important

“Please pick up the blue socks, son”

“Can I wear the Mickey Mouse ones, mom”, he said “Why?’ I retorted.

“Just like that, I was feeling chirpy and happy today!”

Well, I wondered if I hadn’t heard him what would have happened. He would have lost a way to be happy. Listening is not an inborn skill, it has be developed. We, as parents, take our kids for granted. Allow them to speak their mind. Their small things might teach us something new today. I was thinking of wearing the polka dot dress! Small things can bring happiness.

  1. Answer his questions

Albert Einstein said,” The important thing is not to stop questioning”.

A child is a new bud in this universe. He or she has so many question – some absurd, some stupid, and some crazy. We may not know all the answers, but do not dread them. One thing is sure – all their questions are worth thinking about. Allow them to read and question. For if they do not learn to question things, they will accept all that fate grants them.

  1. Helps a child with disabilities

Children with disabilities are low on self esteem and will power. They are more in need of that warm touch and talk. Listening and talking to them wards off their inhibitions about themselves. They learn to face the world with your strength and backing. Adopted children too, have special needs and they needs better parenting to break the barrier; to make them believe you are one of their own.

  1. Indirect communication

A hug, a smile, a cuddle – goes a long way in comforting a child and slaying their fears. A newborn feels the comfort of a mother’s tender love and hug, because he feels his mother’s cocoon of love. Love is beyond words, you just need to comfort your child that you will always be around.

“Talk with your children and you will hear their voice

Walk with them through life and you will feel their heart.” – Geoff Reese


Sheeba Lekhak

Author- SuccessYeti

How To Help Your Child Build Positive Relationships

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I loved the sea and the beach. Have you ever built castles or written absolutely meaningless nothings on the sand?  Yes, even I have. I love to see the waves rushing in and leaving the sand clear as a slate. Magic, I would feel. The castles took a lot of time to build, but the waves just broke it off. It made me feel awful and sad. Looking back I feel, even life teaches us a lot of lessons the same way. Just like relationships. We strive to build relationships that can be cemented, which can stand the test of time and fate. As a parent, we are eager to see our children sail through good relationships in life.

  1. Belief in self

“Encourage and support your kids because children are apt to live up to what you believe of them” – Lady Bird Johnson, former first lady of the United States

It is probably the best thing you would be gifting your child – to believe in self. They see the world through your eyes. Once he knows he can trust his judgement, it is rare for him to falter. To belittle your child, means depriving him to create his own self confidence.

  1. Encourage them to socialize

Building your own peer group is the first step a child takes in socialising. Be it the school, colony or activity centre. Let him build his puzzle pieces of life together. What sets a man apart is that he is a social animal – he can communicate in the best effective manner on this planet. As parents, we should deter from dictating his peer group. It contradicts his own personality and he wouldn’t grow to a person capable of managing his relationships.

“Affirming words from dads and moms are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in the child’s life and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.” – Garry Smally, family therapist.

  1. Trust

Every relationship has its trials and tribulations, whether it be a parent- child, a teacher- student, husband – wife or between friends. As a child grows up, each relation – petal in his life is unveiled like a blossoming flower. He or she learns to cope with it, but what mustn’t leave the plate, is the trust that bonds him with these people.

“Trust is the glue in life. It is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen Covey.

  1. Teach by example

They say those parents are best who lead by example. It is a natural phenomenon that children learn much more from our actions than from our words. When they see you value relationships, with your mother, father, wife or a friend; they indirectly imbibe your mannerisms and attitude.

  1. Pray together

As families, we expect our child to develop a strong and close relation with his conscience and the Almighty. There’s a saying that goes that a family that prays together, stay together. A sense of right and wrong, or maybe to be good and do well; envelopes our personality. A prayer is like a food for the soul.

  1. Relations start at home

A child learns the value of a relationship at home. The love which engulfs him and the sense of security he feels when he is with his own family makes him aware of the word “Relationship”. He learns to bond and trust other person the same way, when he steps out of his home. Life may teach him a lot about people, but family teaches him to believe in self and life.

“Nothing is built on stone; all is built on sand, but we must build as if sand were stone “– Jorge Luis Borges

Read more about : 10 tips to teach your kids to be responsible 


Sheeba Lekhak 

Author – SuccessYeti

Hard Work Vs. Smart Work

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There is a popular saying, “Effort is important but knowing where to make it makes all the difference!”

In earlier times, there would be a lot of emphasis on hard work. Those were the days of overtime when the people would stay back and wait to finish. Hard work back then paid them with returns.

Then by time, hard work stopped reaping direct dividends. The concept of overtime stopped in most white collared jobs. Then came the concept of smart work and all management talks related to work started using smart work in place of hard work.

But is it really very different and if so, how.

Hard work simply means to try relentlessly to achieve what you have aimed for. If you cannot achieve something the first time, then stay at it and repeat your trials till it shapes into various sculptures of success. Even the most talented people have been able to shine only due to consistent relentless efforts.

Then what is so different about the new term “Smart work”. The difference is very is- hard work when more planned and constructed guarantee better results.

Remember : Smart work is not a substitute of hard work

Well, taking shortcuts is not smart work. You have to work hard but in a more goal oriented way. The amount of mental and physical labour you put should be channelized to get the desired results much faster. Planning, time management, skills, attitude, etc. are taken into account while defining smart work.


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So how do we shift from hard work to smart work? Here’re some tips…

Plan and be proactive

Plan your day in advance. Make your list of priorities and adjust your activities in accordance with the plan. That was your efforts will be consistent and in the desired direction.

Create a production schedule for self to achieve your personal milestones. Do not wait for your boss to push you. Take charge, be proactive. This would further gear up your work pace.

Time management is the key

Staying back at your desk past your office hours doesn’t necessary entail that you are working hard. Rather, it’s a mark of incompetency. So how do you work smart? Deadlines, yes… they are very important. Stick to them… Follow the clock rule whenever you are assigned a task. Finish before and leave your desk on time (unless something really urgent comes up)

Read here to know how successful people maximize their time

Focus! Get things done

While doing any activity, converge all your energies towards the activity. So keep all the distractions away. This is how you can get things done!

“Work smart. Get things done.” – Susan Wojcicki – CEO of YouTube

Get more tips on: How to stay focused at work

Learn and adapt

There will be advancements in any field as a result of research and technology. Never stop learning. You can keep yourself equipped with the latest tools and abreast of the latest advancements. These will definitely help your improve your productivity.

This article should help you more: 5 tips to be a quick learner at office


Do not be repetitive and stick to your old ideas. Things are changing around you, so use your brain. Innovate different ways to get your job done effectively! Discover and rectify your mistakes to work smarter.

Your attitude makes you smart

Last but not the least, your attitude matters the most! Be agile, physically fit and composed to be able to perform better at any task. Stay positive, be solution oriented and do not give up…

Like Steve Wozniak says, “Wherever smart people work, doors are unlocked.”

Success is not a stop, but a journey. For there are milestones ahead of everyone that we have achieved for ourselves. And this journey can be made possible only with the help of channelized untiring efforts. Smart work and hard work should go hand in hand to help you progress towards better light at all times.

Liked reading this? Then you would also love reading : 9 behaviours of smart people


Sandhya Parmeshwaram

Author: SuccessYeti

Importance Of Hiring The Right Talent At Office

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Scouting for the precise talent is a mammoth task in itself, not only by the pure nature of the process run associated with it, being sourcing candidates, psychometric and medical tests, short listing, interviewing candidates but also the drain on the company’s time and money resources.

Moreover, hiring the right talent is a still bigger perceived challenge. Like Steve Jobs effectively put it, it is akin to finding a needle in a haystack.

Revisiting the job description

The job description would have changed manifold with the changes in the company’s environment and also the scale in which it is in operation.

So, it would be worth the time to revisit the earlier job description to boost it up to present and future needs. Any job profile needs an evolution. The candidate needs to assured and informed of his role in the company. A disappointment on his part would boomerang in a much larger way to the company. Also we are sure only to canvas for the applicants which suit our profile the best.

Human capital

An employee is not only an investment in the human capital of the company but he is a major thrust to deliver the company’s results. The cost of selecting a wrong employee can be perennially damaging to the job and the company.

“When I find an employee who turns out to be wrong for a job, I feel it is my fault because I made the decision to hire him.” 
Akio Morita, co-founder of Sony Corp.

Work atmosphere- Being able to fit in the culture 

The pursuit of the correct talent would need investment of time and resources on the part of the company. Along with recruitment agencies, nowadays LinkedIn, Facebook etc have also become vital methods for sourcing talents. Visit the potential candidates’ profiles and screen them before making a choice. It is as much an important factor that the potential candidate is able to fit into the culture and atmosphere of the company. It would enable him or her to blend in well if you make an informed choice.


A candidate is apt for the role if he/she remains focussed on his role and is an asset for the company and also employee relations. The company secures his commitment to the job. A disgruntled employee would ruin the office environment and would have perpetually nothing to offer on his plate. You can hardly expect a return on your investment!

“If you can hire people whose passion intersects with the job, they won’t require any supervision at all. They will manage themselves better than anyone could ever manage them. Their fire comes from within, not from without. Their motivation is internal, not external.”
Stephen Covey

Clear roadblocks

“Often the best solution to a management problem is the right person.”
Edwin Booz

The right talent can make or break your company fortunes. At the senior and top management level, often the vacancies are kept on hold for months together for this very reason. The company is run primarily by its employees; one can never undermine the task of the Human resources.

Experience counts

By hiring an employee the company not only gains the vast amount of experience he or she brings on to the job, the company plays an important hand in adding experience in his pocket. Financial security aside, gaining and imparting experience is vital in any employer – employee relation.

“Recently, I was asked if I was going to fire an employee who made a mistake that cost the company $600,000. No, I replied, I just spent $600,000 training him. Why would I want somebody to hire his experience?” – Thomas John Watson Sr.

Hiring apt personnel

More often, we notice that a candidate is hired more for his likeability or pleasant mannerisms and appearance rather than his experience to the profile. Like minded people need not necessarily breed better scalability and profits for the company.

“If you hire only those people you understand, the company will never get people better than you are. Always remember that you often find outstanding people among those you don’t particularly like.”
Soichiro Honda

To sum it up, in the words of Warren Buffet, Somebody once said that in looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence, and energy. And if you don’t have the first, the other two will kill you.


Sheeba Lekhak 

Author – SuccessYeti

7 Time Wasting Habits You Must Let Go To Make Your Life Better

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Time is valuable, but a waste of time is the most overlooked aspect of our lives. Besides the time machine hasn’t been invented, so it’s best to use our time in a constructive way.

Below is a list of 7 habits which we indulge in our daily lives which we should avoid in order to be more productive with our time.

Using your phone too much

Phones today are an impressive piece of technology, almost as powerful as computers, they have a dramatic impact on our lives. From emails, news to social media, we have the control right in our hands.

Even though the social media is informative and fun it can be a constant distraction from work. Today we interact more on social media than personally which is another negative aspect.

Some are glued to their phones even when they are among friends or family. This is not just a waste of time, but also a means to disconnecting with the people you love.

Make it a habit to not use your phone between work or in the company of your loved ones.

Use your phone for communication and convenience rather than a device to kill stress. While phones today are capable of being entertainment devices, too much use is a sheer waste of time.

Imaginary worries

“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”  ― Dalai Lama XIV

In modern times, most problems exist in our minds and not in reality. Stress and a perceived negative future are the cause of these imaginary worries.

Most of these are complete non-issues, but we tend to carry this luggage unnecessarily.

To avoid such worries one should develop a positive and a sound mind by meditation, exercise and a healthy lifestyle.


“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

The above quote clearly explains what is productive and what isn’t.

Restrain yourself from the vague talking as well as avoid the company of people whose favorite pastime is gossip.

It adds no value to your life, is a sheer waste of time and tends to make you negative.

Waiting too long…

Change is the most certain thing in life, but this change is what most people avoid.

There are times in your life when you need to make radical changes, break the status quo, e.g. some of us dream of being entrepreneurs. Such ambitions need bold changes in our otherwise routine lives.

These changes don’t come easy, it takes courage and sacrifice to cross the bridge and venture into the unknown.

Most people spend more time thinking rather than doing. Sometimes we need to realize that the right time is ‘now’.

Strike while the iron is hot, for if you wait, the iron will get cold, along with your will.

Holding on to grudge

‘An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind’

While the origin of this quote is debatable, the lesson isn’t.

Holding a grudge besides being a waste of time is an extremely negative emotion. It causes more harm to the person holding a grudge than the person one is holding it against.

Revenge does not add an ounce of value to your life and is best avoided.

Try to find solace in the fact that ‘what goes around comes around’. Karma will take care of one’s misdeeds. Forgive, forget and move on.

Being overly messy

When you have too many possessions, you tend to lose track of them…You forget where you keep your stuff and end up searching again and again. Be it at office or at home, looking for things when they are disorganized is a sheer waste of time…

So what’s the solution? De-clutter and arrange things properly so that you can utilize the time for better things.

Trying to be someone else

This world has a lot of people we look up to, so it’s a challenge to be yourself.

Originality is a gift of nature and it must be cherished, we are all born with unique personalities and must be true to them.

Don’t change just to impress or please someone, the right people will like you for who you are.

Before I end, you must read this article – 7 things successful people do to maximize their time

Remember the old saying, “time and tide wait for none”… Grab the moments to make your life better before it’s too late.


Saurabh Suratkal

Author: SuccessYeti

10 Ways To Earn Extra Money While Working Full Time

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How often do we get this feeling in our everyday life, “I can’t believe I work so hard to be so poor.” No matter how much we earn, month ends always have their sharp teeth peeking out of open mouths of expenses and you are wondering how to make the ends meet. Getting a Déjà vu?

At the same time, a full time job is so consuming, we cannot take up any assignment that needs a huge time commitment. You remember those times when there was a concept of overtime which always gave them some additional cash? Such a concept is no longer live.  Staying beyond working hours is a norm and there is really no money attached to it.

Then how could we manage those few additional notes, that little additional income that will take care of smooth month ends, slightly increased savings? You can convert your talent/ hobby/ creativity into money generating activities.

  1. Teach

Education is a vastly open field these days with lots of opportunities. Professionals could work as guest lecturers in colleges or in coaching classes. Coaching classes pay very well.

You could take group tuitions, home tuitions as well.

Apart from these, there is a rising demand for guest lecturers in degree as well as management colleges where you could share your knowledge as well. These options also help you with an opportunity to get in touch with the theories that we have long forgotten due to work stress.

This will create a lot of positivity in your mind, open up your thoughts as well as create an air of respect. A teacher is always someone who is looked upon with awe in our country.

  1. Bake

Love the kitchen? The environment in the kitchen brings out the best in you? Go and become and entrepreneur.

Convert your passion for baking into creating special cakes and cookies. Make handmade chocolates, innovative pickles and snacks. These are a rage in the market.

What you begin with just a few in a month could translate slowly into a growing business.

  1. Trade

Is The Economic Times your favourite read? Do you follow the stock market closely? Then use this knowledge and earn. Trade.

Trading in securities, bonds, shares, bullions, etc. is a great method of investing if you have the risk appetite.Trading requires you to invest basic money, closely watch the market, study it and deal.

There are many options to trade. You could trade in securities, bullions, oil etc.

  1. Show your creative self

Good with art, craft? You can paint? Make time for your hobbies and create.

Make paintings, make candles, make jewellery, make whatever you like, and then hold exhibitions and sale. Use the online space as well for selling.

Your hobbies will turn into a passion that will also be commercially viable.

  1. Be a mystery shopper

Earn while you shop or watch movies. Enrol with institutions that offer mystery shopping. All you have to do is follow their guidelines, fill in the reports and then make money out of it.

Mystery shopping could be a totally fun way of earning money.

  1. Be a finance advisor

Money fascinates you? You have a flare for finance and investment. Become a finance advisor. Advise people on how they should plant their money such that it would grow.

You could also become agents with finance or insurance companies so that you could earn through your advices.

  1. Become a part of direct marketing group

Become a part of the direct marketing chain and sell the products or services to the existent contacts. These are minimum investments and you could also use your contacts to earn that extra money.

There are many companies like Amway that form a direct marketing chain and these are attractive options. You could use all the contacts and carry on the chain or simply sell individual products. Either way you gain and earn.

  1. Freelance writing

Like to write? Write a book. Write for websites, magazines and write your own blogs. Review events, movies, books and there you go, the words you have used will translate into cash.

There is a lot of space for writers in this world. You could freelance.  Content writers, review writers, ghost writers are all needed and you will find a place in the world for sure.

  1. Be the accounts person

There are lots of co-operative societies that need people to manage their accounts. With basic knowledge in billing and in society matters, you could definitely offer your services to these societies.

They require your presence only once a week for a few hours and such small services could fetch you that additional income as well as widen your knowledge in the field of co-operative societies’ laws.

  1. Become a sports referee

Proficient in any sport? Convert your passion for sports into an earning opportunity. You could stay in touch with your favourite sport. Refereeing will give you that vent out for your passion for sports as also ring in the cash register.

Think, think and think. It is all about creativity, innovation and entrepreneurship that could get you an extra edge in life.

When you put in your time in pursuing an opportunity in any free time from your full time work, you not only increase your earning capacity as well as your standard of living. You meet people, make relationships and find a new branch to your life.

Unleash the creative you and become your own boss. Go ahead and make fortune as well as fame.

Read more about: Avoid these money mistakes to stay rich forever


Sandhya Parameshwaran

Author – SuccessYeti

How Being Self Aware Can Help You Accept People The Way They Are

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The fact that every individual is different is perhaps the most difficult thing to accept. Because we have a tendency to think that “I am always right”, “my way of functioning is the best”…Seldom do we introspect the perspective and point of view of others, their character, inherent traits and behaviour; and because of our shallow thought process we fail to accept and love people. We become a way too judgemental…This leads to discord in relationships and above all, steals away your peace of mind.

However, when you evolve as an individual, your ideologies change, you gain control over your racing thoughts, you dig deep into the philosophy of life…This kind of spiritual transformation helps you to love people and accept the way they are. Elaborating the topic further below:

Self awareness is the first step to acceptance

What is self awareness? It’s nothing but understanding oneself more before pointing fingers at others. Gaining consciousness while responding helps you to balance out things, decide rationally and calm down. So think if you are doing the right thing by trying to change people not for their benefit but for your satisfaction and gratification of your ego!

Avoid picking on your spouse for little things

When I was living in, I didn’t realize that things can turn out so sour because we kept blaming each other for our habits. The worst mistake was – we tried to change each other. But before we went too far, we both experienced that moment of epiphany. Alas! What are we doing to us? Aren’t we in love? Doesn’t our love weigh more than our personal ego? We pondered over a lot and we both changed gradually…Yes, today I don’t mind arranging his clothes in the closet or picking his shoes to put inside the rack and neither does he flinch away from taking my plate off the table after finishing dinner. I wouldn’t say that we don’t fight now for we do, but then we pamper and make up with love. We have accepted each other with the bad and the good.

Your parents are going to stop you because they are protective about you

Remember, whenever you decide to take the path less trodden, your parents are going to stop you! What do you do then? You enter into an argument and get rebellious? Well, these are the easy ways to escape. But if you are matured enough you would visualize the situation from a different angle altogether- your parents love you and want to protect you. That is the reason they are scared. You should make them understand with the language of love and not violence. Yes, at the end it’s your journey certainly but that doesn’t mean you would estrange yourself from your loved ones. Accept them as your protectors and not enemies.

You too have flaws, you are not perfect

If you think you are Mr or Miss Perfect, then you are totally wrong! We all have some or other imperfections. While you may be domestically challenged, your partner might be a genius cook…The message is simple- you cannot compare one person with another. So before you point fingers at others, do a reality check on yourself.

Do not push people beyond limits

Your son takes part in a competition. And he doesn’t win the gold medal, but the gets the silver. He is happy, but you are not.  Without giving a thought, you utter some really harsh words, “Oh! Couldn’t you have done better than this? Did you practise enough?”…And you make him horribly upset! Your attitude is so distasteful that you not only keep pushing your child but also your spouse to become someone that you have fancied in your dreams!

My friend, you are doing a terribly wrong thing. Do not be so self gratifying that you forget to love people and understand what they are and how they are. You can guide but you cannot force, you can suggest but not command. Everyone loves to enjoy some degree of personal freedom, including you, so do not barge into that space. Accept and appreciate people as much as you can.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa

The quote says it all. Remember, when you are judging, you are also being judged. If you are capable of accepting yourself, you can accept others too.

Last but not the least, a person who is grateful and loving can overcome anything. You are blessed with a wonderful life, so enjoy every moment. Nurture your relationships with love and care, without trying to change them for no good reason.

Much Love 


8 Ways To Persuade People To Do What You Want

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American Economist and investment analyst Mark Skousen , “The triumph of persuasion over force is a sign of a civilized society.”

Persuasion is a very powerful skill. To be able to persuade people to do what you believe in is a great achievement and that is what distinguishes great personalities. Mahatma Gandhi managed to convince an entire nation to stand up and be physically beaten but not to retort. Hitler convinced a sect of people that he is a greater race and destroyed an entire community. Such is the power of persuasion.

However is this only a virtue of a noted few? No. It is a skill that could be developed gradually and could become a part of your personality.

Here are a few tips that would help you to persuade people to do what you want

Use your words powerfully

Persuasion is a game of words. You have to use your words carefully such that they make an impact on the listener and then half of your job is done.

There is this wonderful example for this tip. A blind man was sitting on the street, begging. He had a placard which “I am blind, please help.” A few people went putting coins near him. But he sensed that someone sat next to him, writing something…And then a miracle happened. All of a sudden the number of coins that fell into his box multiplied. In the evening, he felt the footsteps of the person who had written something on the placard. He asked her, “What did you write?” She just read it out to him, “It‘s a beautiful day and I can’t see it.”

The same thought when presented differently creates a very different result.

 Believe in what you are persuading people to do

When persuading people to do what you want them to do, be sure that you believe in it yourself. Suppose you are trying to convince someone that a health insurance policy is very good for them, make sure that you believe in the same. Or when you are selling a car, ensure that all the good things in the car are as per the requirement of the customer.

Your focus should be more on what you genuinely feel is the best availability for the person.

Be honest

Dishonesty may bear fruits instantly, but long term gains crop only out of honesty. Do not make false promises, but be honest in highlighting the features of what you are trying to say. Point out the most pertinent risk factors. This will build a bond of trust and persuading the opposite person will become very easy.

For e.g., if you are selling an ink pen, do mention that an ink pen can blot if the paper quality is poor. This will create a soft spot for you in the minds of the person you are trying to persuade and the entire process will become smoother.

 Focus on long standing relationships than momentary gains

It is easier to persuade people to do things for you if they already have a relationship with you because nothing works as well as a good healthy relationship.
For instance, I have been visiting the same optician for last 14 years even though there are more inexpensive options around. Now he does not even have to persuade me. We decide on things mutually because I feel he has a good knowledge of my requirements. And above all, I trust him.

This is what a relationship can do. Sometimes you can get away even with things that the other person does not fully agree upon simply because of the relationship you share.

So even if initially you may have to make some adjustments to get the relationship wheel spinning, do not shy away from it.

Be assertive not aggressive

There is a very thin line between being assertive and being aggressive. Everyone looks upto the assertive person with respect, whereas they shun an aggressive person. Therefore it is very important that you do not enforce your views or opinions upon the other person you are trying to convince, but just throw the positives at them.

For instance, If you think that the particular colour of t shirt that the person is trying to purchase with a particular pant is totally off track, you can just opine that another t shirt would compliment their personality much better than the one that they are trying to buy. You may encourage them to try a couple more and then decide, but you definitely cannot say that this is awful and looks really bad in combination.

Do your homework right

If you are trying to convince an atheist to come for a church service, then you should know everything about your religion and your church. Once you are a master of the subject then persuading another person becomes easier. You will be able to tell them everything related to your subject. The chances of you then convincing the person is much higher when you have a solid knowledge about the subject than talking about a thing about which you have no clue at all.

Similarly while persuading someone to buy that particular brand of a car, you should know every feature of that brand, as well as why it is superior to other brands. That way the customer will have enough reasons to listen to you.


What you want to make the other person do may not happen overnight. It will require a lot of consistent hard work and patience. Wait and give them the time they need but at the same time, subtly be on it.

All these procedures will take time. It cannot be done in a day. You will always have to give enough time to the party you are trying to convince to engrain the idea in their mind and let it grow.

Use your non verbal communication skills to your advantage

To make sure that someone listens to you, you need to listen to them. Study their mindset quickly so that you know what to talk. Maintain an active eye contact and wear a convincing smile on your face. Show them that you are genuinely interested in them…Once you gain people’s trust, it becomes easy to take them into your confidence. Use words of compassion and empathy like, “I understand you”, “Yes, please take your time”, etc.

Read more about- 4 body language secrets to win people’s trust

Joseph Wong, Secretary for commerce and Industry in Hongkong has stated that, “Influence is the compass. Persuasion is the map.” You can definitely use this map and drive people into doing what you want them to do.


Sandhya Parameshwaran

Author – SuccessYeti

7 Ways To Develop Your Interpersonal Skills

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What are interpersonal skills?

Interpersonal skills refer to your ability to communicate with people be it at office or at personal level. Broadly speaking, your attitude, behaviour, mannerism, non verbal skills, managerial potential, decision making and problem solving ability, assertiveness, etc. are all taken into account. When you score high on your interpersonal skills, you become an indispensable employee at workplace. Your colleagues not only like you but also look up to you for advice, suggestion and mentorship.

You can develop your interpersonal skills in the following ways:

Focus on your attitude and behaviour

How’s your reputation at office? Do you walk in grumpy in the morning or greet everyone warmly with a smile? These tips will help you:

  • Smile when you talk. You are more approachable when you wear a happy face.
  • Be an optimistic person.
  • Say thank you when someone helps you out.
  • Appreciate your colleagues and their effort.
  • Interact with people and show genuine interest in them.

Improve your non verbal communication

Non verbal communication plays a major role in development of interpersonal skills. So you need to master your body language over here. This is how you do it.

  • Listen actively to people when they talk. When you listen you win over their trust.
  • Empathize on your colleagues. Be patient when they present their point of view.

Be a pro at verbal communication

One of the most important attributes that would make you a great leader with great interpersonal skills is your ability to communicate. To develop your communication skills, you need to make some effort as explained below:

  • Read books on the concerned subject. A wonderful example is- How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie.
  • Develop mindfulness when you talk – be aware of what you are talking and the purpose behind it.
  • Be confident while presenting your idea or opinion before your team, management or boss.
  • Do not get too serious while speaking. Take subtle humour to your advantage. People like it.

Be a team player

If you the leader, then this is your responsibility! First, you need to be considerate towards your team and understand their problems. Address your team, unite the members and make them understand the significance of team work. This is how you can be a team player and people will listen and respect you.

Hone your problem solving skills

Whether you are the leader or a general employee, having the ability to shoot problems would give you an edge over other employees. You are promoting a harmony in your organization when you are capable of resolving conflicts and figuring out solutions for day to day problems. And you shall definitely get the perks for developing this interpersonal skill.

More insights on this point: 5 steps to become an excellent problem solver

Be a decision maker

You have to take control of the situation. When your boss asks to you to handle a project independently, then show him/her that you can! And this is possible when you have sufficient knowledge on the subject. So how can you be an apt decision maker?

  • Understand your responsibility
  • Analyze the situation from different angles
  • Take suggestions if needed, but make your decision the final

With experience, you will learn and develop those skills. So be an open minded and interactive person to be likable by others.

5 Tips To Beat That 3 pm Drowsiness At Office

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Oh cum’mon, we all have experienced that post lunch drowsiness. Your eyes are heavy with sleep, you are unable to focus, and that contagious yawning spreads from one fellow worker to other. But you cannot take a nap! Arghh…Still you need to pull through several more hours.

How is that possible? You need power friend, you need to energize yourself. These tips will help you get back your enthusiasm to work.

Grab some coffee and tea

This is the best quick fix. Step out of your office or walk in to the machine to grab some tea or coffee. The caffeine will instantly start working on your senses, and provide you the much needed energy to combat that 3 pm drowsiness at office.

Step out of your desk

A break is much needed at least after an hour or two post lunch. So go outside and get some air. Take a stroll in the break, talk with your colleagues, do some stretching, make a call or do anything to freshen up your mind.

Splash water on your face

Oh yeah! Take a restroom break. Wash your face, do up your hair (especially girls love this break to get back their morning look!). Pep up yourself in the afternoon. When you look fresh and vibrant, you feel energetic.

Do the unimportant

You can spare 10 minutes to power yourself. When you distract your mind from the tedious task for some time, it helps you to regain focus. Check your social updates, emails, play games, surf the net, and get into some fun and humours gossip to break the monotony.

Keep yourself sufficiently hydrated

Feeling overly sleepy every day could be a symptom of dehydration, so make sure you are consuming plenty of water throughout the day. Keep a bottle at your desk, pack some juice, energy drinks or green tea; all these drinks help retain the electrolyte balance of your body, thereby providing you the much needed mental stamina to survive the work pressure at office.

Try these tricks; I am sure they will help. Don’t stick to your work or browse through the excel files when you are heavily drowsy, a break is much needed at such times. Power to you!

Read more about – 11 ways to stay focused at work

P.S.  If you have the privilege of taking a nap, then never miss the opportunity! It’s the best solution. Wake up fresh and start working with a bang.

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