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From Childhood To Adulthood – Combating Pressure after Class 12th Boards

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Five years, I was back at this juncture, to be precise I very well recollect that date it was 8th June 2011, I was sitting with my ma, sipping my coffee and suddenly I heard  phone ringing in the other corner of my house. I somehow knew it is my school friend Anshul, just then on grabbing the phone, without even greeting me, he said “Quickly check your results for NMAT 2011”.  I was perplexed after seeing my results because I wasn’t too keen for it but I found my stars blessed because the result was too good and was a saviour from family expectations and topic of discussion amongst relatives. You won’t believe but the time soon after your class 12 results are out is really strenuous. Most of us are just stepping into adulthood where we are taking some really important decisions that mould our career paths. This is time when many of our relatives or closed ones start reckoning and surmising about our career projection. Wow, finally I am a post graduate! Now all that guidance was in vain and those people who were my academic counsellors are my evangelizers. I get to hear remarks like, what an exceptional child! Once I got an admission that long wait after 12th for going into the best college finally it came to an end. But every happy ending has a long and toilsome struggle. I think we have all come across these statements during our times, “Mr. Chopra ke bete (son) ke 97.6% aye 12 mein”, “The cut-off for Miranda house for B.A Eco (Hons) is 97.5% for 2016 batch”, and “I have filled for SRM, VIT, Manipal, Amity and BITS”. These statements which are too factual and in fact symbolic that life is not a bed of roses.  If I remember my mom telling that when she was at my age she hardly knew any engineer in her neighbourhood or relatives. Those days were the best day when getting a distinction in class 12 was a big deal. Times change, People change, Environment change. There have been enough decades that crossed between my parents and me. In current scenario it is necessary to be the part of that rat race for the sake of survival, but people around don’t realise we are still kids who were sometime back into their sweet sixteen. The environment around us keeps on enforcing lot of things but at this point of time we should have a proper balance of mind, body and health. Having a sound body is the need of the hour; this can be done through following some of tips that I like to recommend from my experience.

People are generally confused or most of times don’t realize that college and life after that is of an adult and not of a child. I believe do what you like the most to spent time on: It could be anything like gardening or perhaps swimming or playing scrabble with your friends and family.  This allows orienting yourself from a lot of chaos around you like the comparisons or certain benchmarks that you need to achieve to be acceptable. Instead of getting webbed into all this one can actually do a lot productive like penning down your experiences because it really helps you both personally that is to learn from those mistakes and you can always revisit them and from an academic point of view it helps not only ameliorate your language skills but also your speech skills because my mentor always used to say write shit but do write until it becomes a heap. I very firmly believe one needs that ‘my time’ after heavy board exams and other pressures. The best way to relax is to try out activities like swimming, ice skating or yoga because it gives a lot of peace of mind and also eases your body in these hot summers. Vacation mode shouldn’t lie for too long that you end up doing nothing because college is again a much bigger responsibility endowed upon us where one has to manage his CGPA scores, projects , internals , daily assignments, internships never mind but a lot to say.

I have come across a lot of people who prefer watching TV series in these vacations, which adds no value but is just a source of entertainment. Not watching Game of Thrones is a crime perhaps for most of friend circles. To avoid being too opinionated, my thoughts aren’t against anything but I believe that spending time on something that brings value makes sense. If you have interest even in dramatics or being on the other side of TV, one can spend time watching short films or go to theatres to see live plays or broadways. Sometimes it is better to be prepared before entering college one can learn some computer programming course like python or Linux; to try out something interesting you can join some workshops like robotics, fashion photography and styling, personality development workshop, design thinking workshop, drone making workshop etc. This is also a correct time to nurture and develop your pre acquired skills such as singing, judo, dancing or sketching, it can be done either through practising that art or training others. We always look forward to serve our country but could never do because always look for such opportunities, we don’t realize that we have so many opportunities in our areas around it could be working as a young member at RWA’s of societies or it can be  working with an NGO.  My English teacher always advised reading when at leisure but most of us too restless so one can learn by listening to audio books or viewing video presentations or clips. I believe one should just develop interest into any genres, be it Indian cinema, entrepreneurship, medieval history, Indian economy, global events, ethical hacking or autobiographies, then one just narrow down more and start digging more and exploring for it. This will also enhance our reading skills and also increase our knowledge about a subject. Being a fitness freak is also a good option, walking daily or participating on play streets on a weekend. A lot of my friends engage themselves in a lot of physical activities such as skipping, jogging, aerobics and Judo which really strengthens bones & muscles, also improves mental health and mood of the person. This bottom line is the health benefits of physical activities are far more than any of its risks. Some people I have come across are wanderers or travellers who love roaming and going to different places around the world. Travelling is something I love to do because there is so much splendid to explore from scenic beauty, people, culture, heritage, physical features, and markets to its history and ancient art. For me,’ to travel is to live’. The period after 12th really requires a lot of motivation, since this is a crucial time one can listen to a lot of Ted talks and Josh seminars. These seminars are really a great source of inspiration and always keep you in the arms of positivity. Remember, all work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy.

Someone has rightly said that “Time and Tide wait for none”, we don’t identify these facts but the childhood goes with a snap of a finger and we don’t even realize. I certainly feel that making this time fruitful and memorable makes more sense rather than getting low or suppressed by results and discussions amongst your friends and family.

Author: Gautam Chadha

Talking And Listening To Your Child. Why It Is Important.

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The morning breeze was swishing past my hair. I love the walk but mostly I rejoice the dawn of a new day. That is when I noticed that little girl in uniform waiting for her school bus. She was trying to convince her mother about something. But her mother was too busy to notice, she was on her cell phone. “Not now sweety! I have a train to catch “, so saying she entrusted the girl to her maid and quickly hopped onto a waiting auto rickshaw. I didn’t miss noticing that glum look on that little girl’s face.  I stood there wondering on Paul Tillich’s quote – the first duty of love is to listen. Listening to our child is one of the greatest ways of showing our love.

  1. Builds a bond

Every day, as I wait for his school bus to arrive, I look forward to his starting line,” Mama, you know what happened today…..” And every day that start up line makes me smile. A child is allowing an opportunity to enter his world through his words, don’t miss out on the Alice in wonderland opportunity. Believe me it transports us to a different world of thought process. The child learns to confide in you. It will become his reflex action to talk about whatever is happening around him.

“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little , they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big because, for them all of it , has always been big stuff “ – Catherine Wallace

  1. Learns to trust and communicate

A parent is the only window of exhaust for a child. He does not know where else to place his fears and seek recourse. If we shut down this window, it would suffocate him or her. A counsellor is required when a parent has taken a step back. A parent is a child’s best confidante.

  1. Open to talking about feelings

Why is talking and listening to your child so important? Because man is a social animal and we have an important tool for communication – speech. It is the only way I will know what my child is thinking. It is the only way I will know what he feels. The world outside our door can be rough, unkind or even cruel at times. Look out for warning signs, but most of all allow your child to reach out to you.

  1. Single parenting

As a single parent, the responsibility increases manifold. He or she would have a lot of insecurity and it is by listening and talking that you can address them. You will notice a mild discomfort, a silence, the look on his face, sooner if the child has learnt to confide in you.

  1. Make them feel important

“Please pick up the blue socks, son”

“Can I wear the Mickey Mouse ones, mom”, he said “Why?’ I retorted.

“Just like that, I was feeling chirpy and happy today!”

Well, I wondered if I hadn’t heard him what would have happened. He would have lost a way to be happy. Listening is not an inborn skill, it has be developed. We, as parents, take our kids for granted. Allow them to speak their mind. Their small things might teach us something new today. I was thinking of wearing the polka dot dress! Small things can bring happiness.

  1. Answer his questions

Albert Einstein said,” The important thing is not to stop questioning”.

A child is a new bud in this universe. He or she has so many question – some absurd, some stupid, and some crazy. We may not know all the answers, but do not dread them. One thing is sure – all their questions are worth thinking about. Allow them to read and question. For if they do not learn to question things, they will accept all that fate grants them.

  1. Helps a child with disabilities

Children with disabilities are low on self esteem and will power. They are more in need of that warm touch and talk. Listening and talking to them wards off their inhibitions about themselves. They learn to face the world with your strength and backing. Adopted children too, have special needs and they needs better parenting to break the barrier; to make them believe you are one of their own.

  1. Indirect communication

A hug, a smile, a cuddle – goes a long way in comforting a child and slaying their fears. A newborn feels the comfort of a mother’s tender love and hug, because he feels his mother’s cocoon of love. Love is beyond words, you just need to comfort your child that you will always be around.

“Talk with your children and you will hear their voice

Walk with them through life and you will feel their heart.” – Geoff Reese

By

Sheeba Lekhak

Author- SuccessYeti

How To Help Your Child Build Positive Relationships

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I loved the sea and the beach. Have you ever built castles or written absolutely meaningless nothings on the sand?  Yes, even I have. I love to see the waves rushing in and leaving the sand clear as a slate. Magic, I would feel. The castles took a lot of time to build, but the waves just broke it off. It made me feel awful and sad. Looking back I feel, even life teaches us a lot of lessons the same way. Just like relationships. We strive to build relationships that can be cemented, which can stand the test of time and fate. As a parent, we are eager to see our children sail through good relationships in life.

  1. Belief in self

“Encourage and support your kids because children are apt to live up to what you believe of them” – Lady Bird Johnson, former first lady of the United States

It is probably the best thing you would be gifting your child – to believe in self. They see the world through your eyes. Once he knows he can trust his judgement, it is rare for him to falter. To belittle your child, means depriving him to create his own self confidence.

  1. Encourage them to socialize

Building your own peer group is the first step a child takes in socialising. Be it the school, colony or activity centre. Let him build his puzzle pieces of life together. What sets a man apart is that he is a social animal – he can communicate in the best effective manner on this planet. As parents, we should deter from dictating his peer group. It contradicts his own personality and he wouldn’t grow to a person capable of managing his relationships.

“Affirming words from dads and moms are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in the child’s life and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.” – Garry Smally, family therapist.

  1. Trust

Every relationship has its trials and tribulations, whether it be a parent- child, a teacher- student, husband – wife or between friends. As a child grows up, each relation – petal in his life is unveiled like a blossoming flower. He or she learns to cope with it, but what mustn’t leave the plate, is the trust that bonds him with these people.

“Trust is the glue in life. It is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen Covey.

  1. Teach by example

They say those parents are best who lead by example. It is a natural phenomenon that children learn much more from our actions than from our words. When they see you value relationships, with your mother, father, wife or a friend; they indirectly imbibe your mannerisms and attitude.

  1. Pray together

As families, we expect our child to develop a strong and close relation with his conscience and the Almighty. There’s a saying that goes that a family that prays together, stay together. A sense of right and wrong, or maybe to be good and do well; envelopes our personality. A prayer is like a food for the soul.

  1. Relations start at home

A child learns the value of a relationship at home. The love which engulfs him and the sense of security he feels when he is with his own family makes him aware of the word “Relationship”. He learns to bond and trust other person the same way, when he steps out of his home. Life may teach him a lot about people, but family teaches him to believe in self and life.

“Nothing is built on stone; all is built on sand, but we must build as if sand were stone “– Jorge Luis Borges

Read more about : 10 tips to teach your kids to be responsible 

By

Sheeba Lekhak 

Author – SuccessYeti

Everyone Has a Story in Life! You Too Can Relate To This…

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This wonderful story will make your day…

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…

“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“ I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

source: ww.livin3.com/5-motivational-and-inspiring-short-stories

Multiculturism: Benefits Of Having Friends From Different Cultures

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“Jana Gana Mana”, we all know is the national anthem of India. But very few of us know that it is only the first of the five stanzas* composed by Rabindranath Tagore. The second stanza in Bengali when translated to English goes –

Your call is announced continuously,
we heed your gracious call
The Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs, Jains, Parsees,
Muslims, and Christians,
The East and the West come together,
to the side of your throne
and weave the garland of love.
Oh! You who bring in the unity of the people!
Victory be to you, dispenser of the destiny of India!
Victory, victory, victory to you!

India has always embraced the fact that people flow from different cultures. The rivers flowing across our country bear testimony to the fact that all them unite together into the oceans. In diversity lies, our unity and our merits.

  1. Helps us to embrace people from all walks of life

I remember during my school days, we never asked our classmates’ religion much less his or her surname or caste. We were all classmates!

The only thing we knew was each one person’s lunch box had something different to offer. We have grown up being a part of each others’ festivals, relishing their regional delicacies, dressing up as someone in fancy dress, trying to catch up on their dialects! Funny what all we did, in a manner shaped us to embrace other cultures. It was an embedded gift and we never knew we were learning to co-exist.

  1. Religious tolerance

A word which has been tossed more around than the omelette these days! But, please spare a moment what does “to tolerate” mean – to a school kid it just means “to bear with something”. From where I see it, I never tolerated any of my friends during school days; they were a part of my universe. As a school kid we never had any relevance to the meaning tolerate; why should it now? We are more open to other cultures as we grow. We are a clean slate. We learn their culture and share ours. Indifferences are rare in such an atmosphere.

  1. Adjust with different cultures around the world

Growing up with different ethnic backgrounds moulds us in a better way to perceive and understand other countries and their cultures better.

We are able to blend in other environs. We look out to learn from other culture – their cuisine, their history, their languages and ethnicity. You will be surprised at the number of foreign students learning Sanskrit in Indian universities.

  1. Evolves personality

Friends from different backgrounds help us to stay rooted to reality. We read about ISIS (Islamic State of Iraq and Syria) in the news these days. I always imagine, haven’t they grown up with kids of other religious backgrounds. If they had, would they think of harming a friend, even if they belong to a different culture of religion? Friends are quasi- family. They make and define our value systems too.

  1. Acceptance and Open

“There are no elements so diverse that cannot be joined in the heart of a man “– Jean Giraudoux

We aren’t judgemental about our friends. We learn to accept each one with an open heart. Their beliefs, language or dressing sense does not surprise us. No one feels like an outcast. Westerners feel intimidated by “pagadi” or a “hijab”. We never feel the same. This is because we have grown up as one of the different cultures and states in India. Ever tried to listen to the different languages that echo around in a second class train compartment! Ever felt out of place? Ha-ha! Never, right. Well that explains that we feel in our skin in diverse cultures.

  1. Give and take, really!

It’s kind of selfish, but imagine if it were not for different cultures, states and religions, we would have missed out on all the good things. Festivals were never limited to our festivals only. We get to lay our hands on all kinds of cuisine. Well, tell me, now who doesn’t love to eat? We get to learn other languages, visit their states, and enjoy their hospitality. We are also more open to welcome inter-state, inter-religious and inter-cultural marriages.

We imbibe and absorb so many good things from our friends. Friends are the key to keep us glued together as one nation. We all smile in the same language.

We may have

Different religions,

Different languages,

Different coloured skin,

But we belong to 1 Human Race

– Kofi Annan

*Source – Wikipedia

Hate Maths? Here Are Some Cool Techniques To Solve Problems

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I wonder why Maths is universally most hated by students. Second at best to exams!  My guess is when we are presented with a situation which is devoid of fun, monotonous and mentally challenging, children tend to avoid it. Also maths has an inherent problem, the solution is either right or wrong, there’s no midway. It can get uncomfortable when we are afraid to make mistakes.

As someone rightly pointed out, it is hard to recognise the beauty of mathematics unless someone shows you.

But believe me, once you understand the fun and logical way of doing maths you just can’t stop yourself falling in love with it.

  1. Start early the fun way

Parents play an important role to inculcate the love of Maths in the kid. Always start early and help them learn math in the fun way. Show how maths can be used in daily life and augment their skill sets with practical problems.

  1. Logical conclusion

It is important to understand that every maths problem has a logical solution. Do not attempt to mug up the answers. It defeats the very purpose of math education. There is a reason why 4 x 3 = 12.

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The same is the case with every maths problem. Do not give up unless you understand the logic of the calculation.

  1. Use maths manipulatives

Maths is no longer reduced to solving problems on paper. We can explain maths with manipulatives / teaching tools. There are a lot of maths manipulatives available in the market like Base Ten models, Fraction bars, Attribute blocks; which not only involve the kids but helps them absorb the concepts faster.

  1. Practice workbooks

If we need the finesse on any maths topic, we need to solve as many problems as possible. There are many math workbooks which help us to grasp the concept well. Involve them in the daily study pattern.

  1. Mental maths

Mental maths is also becoming an allied sub course to maths. Students are encouraged to practise mental maths to boost up their calculation skills. Many courses such as Abacus help the kids to achieve that.

  1. Using tricks and short cuts

Once you comprehend the basic understanding of the problems, you will find many math tricks to sharpen your skill sets. Students studying for Competitive exams are vastly benefitted by the use of such math tricks.

Vedic mathematics, originated from India help the students especially of higher grades to arrive at solutions faster.

  1. Other allied techniques

Singapore Math is becoming vastly popular around the world due to their approach towards understanding and solving maths problems. In the Trends in International Mathematics and Science study (TIMSS) , Singapore students are always the top contenders for the post. Adopt the practice which will help young students love Maths.

  1. Math apps and Educational CDs

In the age of Internet, kids are easily attracted to games and apps. We could use them to advantage in helping the kids learn and love Maths. Grade wise educational CDs are now available for not only Maths but other subjects like Science which instil the age appropriate knowledge to kids.

  1. Olympiads

Olympiad examinations are a different testing tool for each grade. They deviate from the conventional approach of learning Maths and test the inherent knowledge. Encourage the kids to participate in the Olympiad examinations. They will learn another angle in their Maths skills.

  1. Tread a different path

A different approach to learning maths can attract the kids to Maths, making it more fun and enjoyable. Lots of Maths teasers, crossword, puzzles and games like Sudoko ,Kakuro etc are available to make Maths enjoyable to students.

Maths is a fun puzzle to solve, enjoy them. “Mathematics is not about numbers, equations, computations or algorithms: it is about understanding” – William Paul Thurston.

By

Sheeba Lekhak

Author: SuccessYeti

“Things Are To Be Used And People Are To Be Loved”. Do You Agree?

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A beautiful message got circulated in WhatsApp and blessed us with some wonderful life lessons to learn from…Read here.

While a man was polishing his new car, his 6 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car.

In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times;
not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father…

with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’

The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions…..
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;

the child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life…..

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

But the problem in today’s world is that,

People are used and things are loved.

In this year, let’s be careful to keep this thought in mind:

Things are to be used,
but People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits they become character;

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Do u know the relationship between your two eyes?
They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together & sleep together.

Even though they never see each other.

Friendship should be just like that!

Life is vanity without FRIENDS.

Who is your best friend? Send this to all your good friends. Even me, if I am one of them. See how many u get back. If u get more than 7, then u are really a Iovable personI’m sure we must have read this some time but one more reminder

10 Tips To Teach Kids To Be Responsible

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Responsibility – a word too big for your early schoolers to pronounce properly. Well, then how do we assume they not only understand that word but imbibe it too? Quite ironic isn’t it.

Once I received a forward on a messaging service about a girl reminisce her father bring toffees for her and her three siblings.  She was always entrusted with the job of sharing it between her siblings.  And share she did, that too without any complaints from her siblings!!!  Today, when she has to give sweetmeats to her kids, she makes it a point to give each one their share ensuring there are no fights.  Hasn’t she just relinquished her opportunity of teaching her own kids the meaning and responsibility of sharing – something her father so effortlessly achieved?

“If it’s your story, you get to write the ending “– Brene Brown, Author

Let us walk through some tips to keep your kids responsible and grounded.

Train them young

Somebody rightly said that it is easier to train a child than repair an adult.  It isn’t a fairy tale.  One fine day your child is not going to wake up to his responsibilities. Maybe we need to grow up from that thought.

There is no age to start training them. Kids will not be responsible; we need to make them feel responsible.

Routine and discipline

When a parent sets a routine for a child, however menial it may sound; with time he or she adapts to complete that task.  And tell me about it, it’s no cakewalk.  I have been instructing my son to keep his shoes in the shoe-rack when he trots back home since kindergarten, but three years down the road, he still doesn’t keep it unless asked to.

As a child progresses, a chore or to-do list will help him with his tasks.

Involve them in activities

Very often we notice our kids do not abide the tasks in the way we perceive them to.  In the early years, we can show them how a task needs to be done.  Children very often learn by example. Enlist their help while polishing shoes, or doing the dishes. Involve them in weekly shopping trips, planning the holidays etc. They see, they learn. Even we cannot shoot an arrow in the dark.

Align age appropriate responsibilities

Do not burden the children with responsibilities; line them up in a natural progression. In the early toddler years, it may be a miniscule job, like keeping their soiled clothes in the laundry bag. As they grow we can assign activities which they would be answerable to – like keeping their books as per the time-table, folding the fresh clothes after laundry, answering phone calls in your absence, feeding and walking the pet, running for groceries etc.

Teach them to face consequences

With responsibilities, comes the pressure to successfully complete the task. If your child hasn’t put in his books slated for the day correctly, avoid a run to school to give it to him. He must know his parents will not watch his back always. He might be upset, but let that be. You have just taught him to be more responsible the next time. You can tick that responsibility off your chart!

Read stories

There is a lot of passive learning kids assimilate when they listen or read stories as young kids. They start learning the difference between good and bad, strong and weak, friendship and goodness. They unknowingly create a thin line of understanding in them. They will be ready to face the responsibilities as and when it presents.

Allow unstructured space

Encourage unstructured and self motivated games and activities. Let them make their own rules and regulations. Put their minds to work, build their own defences and know their limitations. It maybe a war play or building a Lego vehicle set. Children learn not only from your experiences, but their own experiences too.

Allow self decision making

Just the other day, my son wanted to watch two animation movies. I gave him an option to choose one of them, purely his call. I can chaperone as long as he stands to his choice. Let the children make some decisions, understand their outcomes, feel the sense of what-if situations. It is fine if the outcome doesn’t meet your expectations.

Encourage

It is important we do not bring up kids with shallow confidence. Their mistakes should not tarnish their own self image. Encourage them, but no false praise.

Avoid over indulgence

We so like supervising things around us, that we do not realise that we just over step our line at times. Children of today have a mind of their own. They are an evolved species, much more capable than us. Just take a step back, give them their space and independence to complete a task assigned to them. Do not judge or criticise them before the curtains fall.

Yes, by not teaching our kids the ropes of responsibility we not only alienate them from a key learning skill but also other associated skills. They are our kids; we need to be responsible first.

Read more about : 8 ways to instill moral values in children

There is a quote by Ann Landers – “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do themselves, that will make them successful human beings.

By

Sheeba Lekhak

Author – SuccessYeti

Must Read: A Beautiful Lesson From The Book, “The Giving Tree”

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The Giving Tree is a children’s book written by author  Shel Silverstein, who had beautifully captured the two most valuable humane qualities i.e. – love and care. 

We have picked the story for you below: Read on

Once upon a time, there lived a big mango tree. A little boy loved to come and play around it everyday. He climbed to the tree top, ate the mangoes, took a nap under the shadow… He loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him. Time went by, The little boy grew, and he no longer played around the tree.

One day, the boy came back to the tree with a sad look on his face. “Come and play with me,” the tree asked the boy. “I am no longer a kid, I don’t play around trees anymore.” The boy replied, “I want toys. I need money to buy them.” “Sorry, I don’t have money… but you can pick all my mangoes and sell them so you will have money.” The boy was so excited. He picked all the mangoes on the tree and left happily. The boy didn’t come back. The tree was sad.One day, the boy grown into a man returned. The tree was so excited. “Come and play with me,” the tree said. “I don’t have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me?” “Sorry, I don’t have a house, but you can chop off my branches to build your house.” So the man cut all the branches off the tree and left happily. The tree was glad to see him happy but the boy didn’t come back afterward. The tree was again lonely and sad. One hot summer day, the man returned and the tree was delighted. “Come and play with me!” The tree said. “I am sad and getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat?” “Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy.” So the man cut the tree trunk to make a boat. He went sailing and didn’t come back for a long time.Finally, the man returned after he had been gone for so many years. “Sorry, my boy, but I don’t have anything for you anymore. No more mangoes to give you.” The tree said. “I don’t have teeth to bite,” the man replied. “No more trunk for you to climb on.” “I am too old for that now,” the man said.“I really can’t give you anything, the only thing left is my dying roots,” the tree said with sadness. “I don’t need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years,” the man replied. “Good! Old tree roots are the best place to lean on and rest. Come sit down with me and rest.” The boy sat down and the tree was glad and smiled.

Moral: The tree in the story represents our parents. When we are young, we love to play with them. When we grow up, we leave them and only come back when we need help. Parents sacrifice their lives for us. Never forget their sacrifices. Give them Love and Care before it’s too late.

source: http://www.moralstories.org/the-giving-tree/

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8 Ways To Instil Moral Values In Children   

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Every parent strives to impart a wonderful education to their kids. From the moment they barely learn to walk, you find overzealous parents enrolling their kids to mother toddler groups. They chart out an elaborate goal chart and conduct all the possible feasibility studies with respect to schools, curriculum, extracurricular activities so on and so forth. Have you ever realized that you are finding food for your child’s brain and not for his soul?

Theodore Roosevelt said “To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to the society.”  How true is that in today’s age?  How do you expect your kids to learn values such as honesty, compassion, humility, courage, faith, religious tolerance, generosity, dependability, responsibility, gratitude, self –discipline? The answer lies with you, as a parent.

So here’s the guide to instil moral values in children

Read bed-time stories

I cherish the bed time story sessions with my kid. They not only spark a kid’s imagination but also instil moral values in them, in addition to serving as a great tool to enhance vocabulary and the love of reading. Emote with the story because kids as young as 3 years understand emotions more than words. They learn to differentiate the good from the bad. And yes! Do not forget to tell them the moral of the story.

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It starts in the family

Children emulate elders. They often imbibe our actions and words because parents are their first role models. Make sure your actions are consistent with your words. So it begins with your behaviour and moral values. There is a proverb in the Old Testament – “A good name is better than riches – train up a child in a way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.“ (Proverb 22:6)

Train them young.

Moral values are best cemented in the early childhood phase.  Academic and professional goals of our kids change but moral values remain the foundation of his character. They learn so much more than we realise from the world around. Before we realise, internet and television would have shaped their character.  We cannot cocoon them from this world of obscene and offensive language, visuals and violence. The least we can do is make them flight ready – with sound morals.

Spend time with the kids

As a parent we need to ensure that we spend time with our kids.  Kids do not learn values at the day-care.  Moral values are instilled with time and patience. Trees don’t bear fruit in a day.  Discuss everyday experiences with the kids. Talk to them about everything. It serves as a catalyst to absorb values better.

Involve them in religious occasions

In a society where caste, creed and race are becoming a trigger to violence, it’s absolutely essential that children learn about religious tolerance. They need to understand the value of human life and respect others possession and religion. Read out the religious scriptures and holy books to them, include them in prayer meetings and let them take an active part in religious festivals. It teaches them faith and also instills a fear of evil doing.

Give them an opportunity

Did you watch your kid arguing for a good reason with his friends? Well, you could do well to pat his back.  An encouragement from your end will egg him to believe in self.  Do give him an opportunity to do good to the society, whether it is giving away his toys or books or taking part in a community service.

Allow them to imbibe values from around

Schools today have also embraced the responsibility of imparting moral education to children. Moral values can be imparted wherever and whenever. It does not require a pen or paper, not a tab or internet. Did your child watch a movie with you? Discuss his learning. Did he have a fight with his friends? Do not camouflage his wrong doings. The child is learning everyday, make sure you are ready with your part.

Appreciate your child’s good behaviour

When your kid comes running to you and says, “Mom I have helped my friend with his studies”, appreciate him. Praise him when he finishes his food without any complaining or does his homework. The fact that you are applauding him will be well ingrained in his tender mind. And they would exhibit the same behaviour in the future.

You educate a child, you give him a future. You mould his character; you make him a human being.

By

Sheeba Lekhak

Author – SuccessYeti

Motivation, Communication, Leadership, Success, Inspiration, Start Up, Business