Recognize the traits that you despise.
The first step in managing these challenging situations is to become aware of the features in others that you find offensive or repulsive; write a list if it helps. Then acknowledge that these are qualities that you may also possess. Make peace with your inner and outside characteristics.
Accept and recognize
Identifying the basis of your annoyance and accepting that each human is essentially unique and that expecting others to be like ourselves is an unreasonable demand.
Change your way of thinking.
When we dislike someone, we frequently see them in black or blue shades of hatred and contempt. We are biased towards them as a result of these feelings, and we do not enjoy whatever they say or do.
When it’s difficult to control your negative emotions, before responding or becoming irritated, ask yourself basic questions like “would it matter to me in a year?” or “what if I?”
Consider this:
Make a conscious decision in front of you. Following this pause, you’ll be able to continue with a slightly more open mind and heart.
When dealing with difficult people, the word “pause” can be extremely helpful. Stop, take a deep breath, and mentally replay the situation, or give yourself space and time to consider the outcome or result of your reaction. Make a conscious effort to put your judgment aside for a time and think with an open mind and heart.
