Make an effort not to make it about them.
When you do present a reason for rejecting the person, keep it focused on you or the two of you, and be honest. You’re not genuinely rejecting the person this way. Rather, you’re arguing that you two aren’t a good match. “I don’t think we had any chemistry,” for example, or “My feelings for you are totally platonic.”
Wish the person well.
After you’ve stated that you don’t want to go on another date, you might move on to wishing the individual well in some way. You’ll begin on a high note, then go to a more negative note, and finally, end on a high note. You could say, “I wish you the best,” or “I hope you find someone who makes you happy.”
Be gentle but firm.
You don’t want to lead the individual on, so say “no” in some manner; yet, you don’t have to be cruel about it. Instead of attacking the person, discuss what you liked about them. Avoid words like “maybe” or “I don’t think so,” or anything else that implies you could alter your mind or be persuaded to go out with them again.
Be firm.
If the person persists, make it obvious that you do not want a second date. If they continue to contact you, you may need to repeat it louder, ban their phone number, or block them on social media. Remember that your safety comes first, and if someone is making you feel threatened, it is more vital to protect yourself than to be courteous or tactful. You might say “I apologize if I did not make it obvious in my last message, but I am not interested in a second date. Please do not contact me again.” If you believe someone is putting you in danger, contact security or the police.
