1. Quit claiming to be insecure.
This is a crucial step: if you’re currently focusing on bettering yourself, especially your sense of security, you’re essentially rewriting your story. This is impossible if you continue to define yourself as “an insecure person” or if you ponder about your various confidence issues on a regular basis. After you’ve eliminated the negative thoughts, you can begin to alter your behavior.
2. Put your doubts to the test.
The second phase entails putting some distance between yourself and these negative emotions. They’re an external presence that you can evaluate, examine, and eventually erase, despite the fact that they appear to come from you. Begin to recognize that your doubts are simply your greatest anxieties surfacing and disguising themselves as actual opinions. They aren’t. They are untrue. Unless you give them power, they have none.
3. Give your critic a name.
Not with a name like “Chris” or “Johnson” (though you certainly can), but with a name that helps you recognize those thoughts when they start to seep into your self-awareness. If you are looking at a pic of yourself with your significant other and thinking to yourself, “They’re so much more attractive than me, I bet people notice and wonder why we’re together…”, stop and acknowledge that that is your critic’s voice, not your own, your partner’s, or anyone else’s.
4. Don’t overthink things.
Overthinking is a no-win situation. If you dwell on a bad thought, it will appear more serious and pervasive than it really is. Overthinking will find a negative or insecure mindset if you don’t already have one. It’s not a good habit in general because it causes worry, anxiety, and tension within oneself, but in the context of your relationship, it spells doom.
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