Take note of your reactions to actions: Take note of what makes you feel liked and respected. Small acts of kindness, such as praises, gifts, or acts of service, make you feel loved. Or do you place a premium on quality time, physical touch, or words of affirmation?
Consider prior relationships: Consider what made you feel loved in previous relationships. Was it time spent together, physical contact, or gifts? This might help you understand your love language.
Request feedback: Request that friends, family members, or partners examine your conduct and tell you what their love language is.
Take a love language quiz: There are several online questionnaires that can assist you in determining your love language. However, these quizzes should be taken with a grain of salt because they are not always correct.
Take note of your partner’s love language: Consider what makes your spouse feel loved and respected. If you repeatedly express your love in ways that do not resonate with your spouse, it may be worthwhile to investigate what their love language is.
When you understand your partner’s love language, you can explain your wants to them and adjust your behaviors to demonstrate love in a way that is significant to them. Understanding your own love language can also help you convey your wants in other relationships more successfully.
