Ways To Stop Fighting With Your Mate

Relationships involve a fair share of fights but if you are unable to stop fighting and every day, no matter what you do, there seems to be conflict, then here are some ways to stop fighting with your partner

1. Accept responsibility for your actions

It’s easy to point out flaws in your partner and recall all the times he or she has let you down. But be true to yourself. When things are at their peak, relax your defenses. Don’t be afraid to admit your mistakes.

2. Touch can help you reconnect

Sometimes you realize that continuing to argue and fight is pointless. Instead of circling the hamster wheel, stop fighting and speaking and engage in a long embrace, hold hands, or cuddle. Forget about the anger, frustration, and hurt for a moment and concentrate on connection.

3. Take some time to relax

It’s difficult not to react in the spur of the moment. However, there is a reason why we feel more reasonable and remorseful minutes after a fight. We can gain insight and come back to a more logical and reasonable state of mind if we can get a hold of ourselves in that moment of intensity.

We can choose to respond with more awareness and sensitivity to the other person if we stay in the moment rather than wandering off into our heads.

4. Switch from a defensive to a receptive mode

We can extend a more compassionate mindset toward our mate once we work on calming and relaxing. Rather than defending, reacting, or counterattacking, try to listen and understand the other person. The more we can maintain a receptive state, it becomes easier to put ourselves in their shoes and understand them. Instead of pushing them away, we can use the experience to make them feel closer.

5. Find a way to laugh

Even in the tensest situations, it is acceptable to use humor to break the ice. You may be unaware of how quickly a fight escalates or how strongly you feel anger, guilt, blame, or frustration.

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