Relationships!!! They are still one of the most complex and messy characteristics of human life. After a couple breaks up, they go through a lot of pain and suffering which only heals slowly over time but never fully recovers. Some carry immense hate for their partner and some just follow the path of forgiving and forget. Some ex-partners even find a way to remain friends even after breaking up. But what happens when your ex-partner falls into some trouble and asks you for help? How do you react or respond to their request? It may even be very hard for the people so didn’t end the relationship on good terms.
You must first and foremost consider the terms and conditions on which you left the relationship. If it was a bad end involving a lot of fighting, arguing or even hurtful words, then you probably hold a grudge against your ex. This grudge won’t even make you think about helping them because you carry hate for them. In such conditions, it is best to ignore the request because as soon as you help them, you may feel obliged for them to owe you a favour which might not be how your partner sees it. This can make you even angrier and escalate into another bad fight, which is the last thing you need in your life. In short, it is best to avoid trouble and make an excuse to get out of helping them. However, it is for you to decide whether you must help or which might not be how your partner sees it. This can make you even angrier and escalate into another bad fight, which is the last thing you need in your life. In short, it is best to avoid trouble and make an excuse to get out of helping them. However, it is for you to decide whether you must help or not. Sometimes they may be in huge trouble or even facing a life or death situation and in such a case, it is okay to help someone out of humanity. Help your ex-partner like would have helped any other human and not as an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend.
But if you have ended the relationship on good terms and are friends it is healthy to help each as friends. It maintains your friendship and takes you out of the awkward phase as exes whenever you meet. However, you must understand the difference between helping and getting used by. Sometimes ex-partners only ask you for help because they know you won’t deny their request and take advantage of it. Be aware and see through their needs and wants. Help them when they need but not whenever they want!!
